A Little Holiday Kindness

[I wrote this last year, but we thought it might be helpful to folks again this year.] Last year, it seemed like every discussion about surviving the holidays focused on how to interact with the Trump voter at your family table. This remains disturbingly relevant, though my advice for that lands pretty solidly in the […]

Episode 002- If You Wannabe My Lover

Tell me what you want, what you really really want… In Episode 2 we talk about sex and relationships using the What I Want To Do list & The Queer/Trans Relationship Template. What if someone misgenders my partner? What are gender-neutral terms to describe my relationship? Can I be polyamorous if I’m jealous and wanna call […]

Book Review: It’s the End of the World As We Know It

In the last few months, I joined two book clubs, because I love to read, but also because I am a chronic over-scheduler. I didn’t finish either of the first books on time (what are book clubs for, if not to make you feel a little bad about yourself?), but then last month’s selection was […]

Ask Sex Coach Leigh: Kittens, Cuties, and Other Folks

Q: I’m a cis-gendered male who grew up in the Midwest. Years ago, I started calling my wife “my partner.” I’d like to get some other ways like that to make non-gendered language a part of my everyday speech. I mean, is cis-gendered even hyphenated? A: Hello lovely! This question makes me so happy, and […]